Parenting teenagers and emerging adults proves difficult for many. Kara Powell and Steven Argue present a fantastic model for doing so in "Growing With." They begin by developing a model of adolescence that enables the parent to understand how they can guide their children through each stage of growing. This model begins with children being learners (ages 13-18 - traditional adolescence). This age group is characterized by physical, spiritual, mental and emotional growth and change. Parents can come alongside their learners as teachers, guiding them as they learn about themselves. After this children emerge into the stage called Explores (ages 19-23). In this stage children move away from home, pursuing goals and relationships. Young people are often unsure of themselves during this stage. Parents walk alongside them during this stage as guides, helping their offspring explore their goals and desires. Finally, young people reach the stage of Focusers (ages 23-29). Focusers have hopefully developed into young adults who have assurance in their talents and an understanding of what they wish to do with their lives. At this point parents are resourcers, providing helpful guidance when asked and helping their offspring to claim life and live it.
Following the development of this family theory and how emerging adults and parents should interact with one another, Powell and Argue apply their theory to various areas of life. They do a beautiful job exploring relationships, faith, career, and other necessary aspects of growing into adults. Central to all of their conversation is helping students continue to grasp unto Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior as the reach adulthood.
All parents concerned for the healthy emergence of their children into adult life should consider the wisdom shared in "Growing With." In addition to the book, the authors provide many on-line resources which can be reached through the Fuller Youth Institute.
I received this book as a review copy for Baker Publishers Blogging program.
